That is, again, not a very good proxy. If we take a
hypothetical example in a school where Grade 6P spontaneously
starts a finger-knitting craze. It spreads within the class,
but not so much outside the class. Now a couple of students
from Grade 6S hear about it and also start finger-knitting.
But it never really catches on in Grade 6S, because there
isn't an "everyone else is doing it" mentality. Basically,
finger-knitting is in the culture of Grade 6P but not in the
culture of Grade 6S. However, there are still 3 or 4 students
in Grade 6S that are doing it. They occasionally hang with the
6Pers at lunch time and they knit together. You could look at
this situation and say "well only 5% of finger-knitters are
from Grade 6S -- therefore, we must assume that Grade 6S
people are generally unhappy with finger-knitting." But that's
not true at all. The 3 or 4 Grade 6S students who are in the
community are very happy indeed. They just haven't been able
to convince many of their fellow 6Sers to join them, because
it is not in the Grade 6S culture.
By way of analogy, I am trying to say that just because only a
small percentage of a particular group is participating in
some activity does not mean that the ones that are
participating are unhappy. It also doesn't mean that, were
that percentage to increase, that the ones already
participating would become happier.
You seem to be unhappy that there aren't enough women in free
software. If you are being genuinely offended because people
are treating you differently as a woman, then that is a
legitimate problem which should be addressed. But if you are
merely unhappy because of the low numbers, then what I think
some of us are trying to say is that it shouldn't matter:
we're not here in our capacity as men and women, we're here to
discuss and appreciate free software, and we should be able to
do that without consideration of gender.
Matt